I am tired of being married.

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  For the last seventeen years, I have been married to a great woman, and she has mothered three amazing children that we love with all our hearts. We are sealed in the temple of our lord. In our church, The Church of Jesus Christ of Later Day Saints, we believe that when a couple are sealed in the temple of the lord we are husband and wife for eternity, not to be separated at death, also our children are sealed to us as well meaning that we are an eternal family.  
   With that sealing there lies great responsibility and obligation to one another as well as to a God in heaven and a saviour in Jesus Christ that provided a way through his atonement for us to return to him, the father. So it is important that as a couple we work out our differences, and strive to be better at being husbands and wives.  After all, marriage is not just a piece of paper, it is a lifestyle, a culture, a union, a seed to a family, not to be mocked or trifled with. There is no greater commitment to another than that of marriage. 
Obviously I understand the importance of marriage and being a present and helpful husband to a good woman. So why am I so tired of being married? I'll tell you. Because being married is not an easy job. If you are married and it is easy then you are doing it wrong. Marriage is not meant to be easy, it is meant to be a challenge for the rest of your life. Like a great muscle that needs to be exercised or risk losing that muscle to atrophy. 

10 seconds after receiving
 "the drugs!"

   Frankly I am worn out. This last week Trin, my wife which is short for Trinitie, had back surgery. Not an easy ordeal for her, or me or the kids. I -- We rely heavily on the one known as "MOM" and I freely admit my lack of love for the finer points of keeping "house." I do, however, love to serve my bride and our offspring. It is no easy task and when my bride is just one step above paperweight it is difficult. Between the trauma of the surgery and the truly gorked nature of her mental state due to the intoxicating effects of the Oxy and valium, I am maxed out on effort. To be clear here, I am not trying to say "hey look at me" in any way shape or form. I am merely saying that I Love and appreciate what this woman has done for me in the past, of which began on the day she said yes. She has put up with a lot of my shenanigans and turned the other cheek more than should be required. 
 

The kids getting to see their mom
 for the first time after surgery

 I am one week into the care and feeding of my wife and I am tuckered out, I am doing things for her that I never imagined doing for her, and she has made it perfectly clear that she is not a fan of me, or anyone else for that matter, doing too much for her. I would die for her--right here, right now. Our Love is exhausting!  
   So I am saying this, being a present and involved husband and father requires work, sacrifice, and selflessness. Your marriage should be an effort, and effort to build upon it, an effort to make it better than it was yesterday, not in riches and gifts, but in love, and service to one another, and not with the understanding that in any way you are owed anything in return for your kindness and sacrifice. 

Trin and Polly getting some sun
which is a must for proper recovery

   The woman is the greatest creation of our God in heaven. She is majestic, beautiful, full of life and capable of bringing life into this world, human life. No other creature is capable of doing this. Her creativity, wisdom and grace is that of heavenly Gods and dare I say a natural instinct until robbed of that through life here on earth through a multitude of experiences. She is to be guarded and protected, cherished and  revered. I'm in love with my very best friend, more now than I was yesterday and the day before that. I love her leaps and bounds above the level of love I had for her the night before he surgery. 
   We are all busy we all have obligations and responsibilities outside of the home, but the responsibilities in the home should be priority one. So go out and get tired of being married!